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Monday, September 14, 2026

WINNING WAYS WITH PARENTS

In Amanda Ripley’s book THE SMARTEST KIDS IN THE WORLD, one of the most interesting findings was that what parents did at home mattered significantly. Reading to children and talking about school was very important. Parents showed their children they valued education by asking about school, what they learned, what they liked, etc. Parents who modeled reading also had a positive impact.


Here are a few tips to encourage parents to communicate with their children about school.

Journal
Make daily journals for students by putting white paper in a pocket folder. At the end of each day students draw what they learned and dictate or write a sentence to go with their drawing. The journal goes home each evening so children can discuss what they did at school with their parents. The parents sign the journal, write comments or compliments, and return it the following day.




Conversation Starters
Make copies of the attached conversations starters. (Adapt them to your age level and curriculum.) Cut them apart and put them in a bag. Children draw one as they leave at the end of the day and give it to their parents to prompt a discussion about what they did.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1SnEagA4jlja2w2OWtzRjlIdkk/view?usp=sharing


Hint! One school suggested that parents "turn it off" in the car when they picked up their child. The quiet time might encourage children to talk about school because they'd know they had their parent's undivided attention.


Screen Time Survey
Ask parents to keep a log of how much time their child spends in front of a screen for a week. The following week ask them to “turn it off” and spend an equal amount of time reading, playing games, doing chores around the house, etc. with their child.


Brain Tickets
Run off brain tickets similar to the ones below. To earn a brain ticket children need to tell the teacher one new thing they learned at the end of each day. Explain to the parents that their job is to ask their child what she learned to earn the ticket.


https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1SnEagA4jljUmNfQTJld3VsV00/view?usp=sharing

HERE'S A GREAT ARTICLE BY LAURA PEARSON TO SHARE WITH PARENTS!

Building Friendship Skills at Home to Boost Kids’ Confidence at School

For busy parents of elementary and middle school kids, few things sting like hearing that making friends at school feels confusing or lonely. Many children face social development challenges that show up as missed cues, awkward starts, or conflicts that seem to come out of nowhere, even when they’re bright and kind. Children’s friendship skills shape daily comfort in the classroom, on the playground, and in group work, where peer relationships in childhood can either support learning or drain a child’s energy. A steady parental role in social skills helps kids build the confidence and habits that make school days easier.

Understanding Friendship Skills Kids Can Practice Anywhere

Friendship skills are small, learnable behaviors that help kids connect: starting a chat, taking turns talking, sharing space or materials, and noticing who is being left out. These are part of the social and conversational rules that make interactions feel smooth instead of confusing.

When kids practice these moves at home and in clubs or sports, they build social understanding they can reuse at school. Even a few extra back-and-forth exchanges matter, because conversational turns support the kind of listening and responding that friendships need.

Think of it like a rehearsal. If your child practices greeting a neighbor, sharing the remote with a sibling, and inviting a cousin into a game, school interactions feel less like guesswork. That’s why simple animated stories can make greetings, turn-taking, and including peers feel easy to repeat.

Create 5-Minute Animated Social Stories to Practice Friend Moves

Once your child can name “friend moves” like greetings, turn-taking, and inviting someone in, seeing them play out in a story makes the skills easier to remember and try. Parents and kids can use an AI animation generator to turn friendship lessons into fun visual stories you watch together and talk about. Tools like an AI animation generator can quickly transform simple text prompts, quick sketches, or images into lively 2D or 3D animations, no advanced design skills required, so it’s easier to bring your child’s ideas to life in an animated video. One day your story might show a friendly “Hi” at the classroom door; another might model a back-and-forth conversation where each person takes a turn; another could show how to invite a peer to join a game.

The process of creating shared comics, storyboards, or animation-style images is practice, too: kids get to share ideas, listen to yours, take conversational turns, and cooperate as you build the story together. That low-pressure teamwork can help them feel more confident using the same skills with classmates. If you’d like a simple place to start, Adobe Firefly AI animator can help you generate animated scenes from prompts or visuals.

Habits That Grow Friendship Skills All Week

Small, repeatable habits turn “friend moves” into automatic choices at school. When you practice briefly and consistently, your child builds confidence without feeling coached all day.

Two-Minute Connection Warm-Up

      What it is: Practice one greeting, one question, and one compliment before school.

      How often: Daily

      Why it helps: It makes friendly openings feel natural in the hallway.

Model-It-First Moments

      What it is: Let your child see you introduce yourself and include someone.

      How often: Weekly

      Why it helps: Kids copy what they notice, especially under pressure.

Coach-and-Release Script

      What it is: Rehearse one sentence for joining play, then let them try.

      How often: Per milestone

      Why it helps: It supports independence while lowering anxiety.

Inclusion Check-In

      What it is: Ask who sat alone, then plan one kind invite tomorrow.

      How often: Three times weekly

      Why it helps: It builds empathy and social-emotional development.

Screen-to-Scene Swap

      What it is: Trade 10 minutes of scrolling for face-to-face talk or play.

      How often: Weekly

      Why it helps: It counters losing the opportunity to develop everyday connection skills.

Friendship Skills Questions Parents Ask Most

Q: How can I help a shy child without pushing too hard?
A: Keep it small and predictable: practice one greeting at home, then stop. Turning it into a game can lower pressure, and practice at home gives your child a “safe rehearsal” before school. Praise effort, not outcomes.

Q: What should I say when my child tells me they were left out?
A: Start with empathy: “That sounds really painful.” Then help them pick one next step they can control, like asking one classmate to partner up tomorrow. Avoid rushing to solve it immediately, which can make them feel powerless.

Q: Why does my child copy friends or act differently to fit in?
A: Wanting to belong is normal, especially in elementary and middle grades. Research with more than 350 fourth and fifth grade students shows fear of rejection can shape peer behavior. Try talking about “kind choices” versus “popular choices” and role-play a calm boundary.

Q: When should I step in with the teacher or school?
A: Step in if there is repeated exclusion, name-calling, threats, or your child seems anxious about attending school. Share concrete examples and ask what supports are available, like lunch buddies or structured group work. You can advocate while still building your child’s skills.

Q: Should I arrange playdates if my child struggles socially?
A: Yes, but keep them short and low-stakes, ideally with one child and a clear activity. Choose settings where taking turns is natural, like a simple game or craft. Afterward, ask one question about what felt easiest, then celebrate that.

Grow School Friendships by Practicing One Skill at a Time

Kids can feel stuck when friendships get confusing, especially after rejection or when shyness makes reaching out feel risky, and parents often worry about doing too much or too little. The steadier path is gentle parental involvement in friendship: notice patterns, reinforce social skills with calm coaching, and treat practice as ongoing rather than a one-time fix. Over time, that approach supports social success at school by helping children read situations, recover from bumps, and stay connected with peers. Small, repeated practice builds the confidence kids need to keep trying with peers. 

Sunday, September 13, 2026

CHORES FOR KIDS

It can be a "chore" to get children to do chores, but housekeeping jobs help children feel "worthy" and a valuable part of the family unit. Chores can also be a powerful way to develop "task initiation and task completion" (aka the executive function).

One teacher explained that when she had parent conferences she emphasized the importance of having children do chores and take responsibility for helping their family. There are several good website with ideas for chores children can do:

www.webmd.com/parenting/features/chores-for-children


www.focusonthefamily.com/...kids-to.../age-appropriate-chores

parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/.../age-appropriate-chores-for-children



We often “assume” that children know how to do a task and then we get frustrated when they don’t do it correctly. That’s why it’s important to model expectations and demonstrate specific steps. Here's an activity that would be perfect for a learning center or housekeeping area.

Setting the Table
Bring in some plastic plates, utensils, and cups and demonstrate how to set the table. You might want to trace around the items on a paper placemat so the children can match one to one.


Training Tools
Go to the dollar store and purchase a dustpan, broom, duster, etc. Demonstrate how to use these and then invite children to help you keep the classroom clean.

Teeny Tiny Duties
Let children share the chores that they have at home. Make a list of these tasks on the board. Ask children to choose three or four that they could do to help at home and make a job chart. Tell them to hang it on the refrigerator and keep track for a week. Demonstrate how to make a check mark each day when they complete the task.

Saturday, September 12, 2026

TO GIVE OR NOT TO GIVE HOMEWORK???

Every year around this time I hear horror stories about primary grade children having several hours of homework each evening. The child ends up crying - the parents end up yelling – what’s the point?

First of all, if a young child goes to school and sits and listens and works and learns for six hours, they deserve to do what they want when they get home. The need to play, move, laugh, yell, imagine, and be KIDS!

Homework should teach children responsibility. Homework should be a tool to help parents see what their child is doing at school. Homework should extend learning from the classroom to the home. Homework should be MEANINGFUL!

If I were in charge of the world, primary grade children would NOT be allowed to spend more than 30 minutes on homework each night. They might be asked to read 20+ minutes and then have ONE other assignment. I would try to make the assignment engage with the parent and connect the real world with what’s going on in the classroom. For example, the assignment might be to ask their parents what a veteran is and to find out who the veterans in their family are. The assignment might be to ask their parents how they use math in their jobs. The assignment might be to cut out a picture from the newspaper and write one or two sentences about it. Drill and kill worksheets should be banned!

My daughter brought up the point that many parents WANT homework and are impressed with lengthy assignments because they think it will make their children smarter. In the book Battle Over Homework: Common Ground for Administrators,Teachers, and Parents, Harris Cooper put together a variety of research studies on homework. He found that in elementary school, homework has almost no impact on academic achievement. In middle school, the results are mixed. In high school, moderate levels of homework can help the learning process.


Here are some ideas that might encourage children to develop responsibility and positive attitudes about homework.

Tic Tac Toe Homework

Make a tic-tac-toe grid and put a different assignment in each section. Children can do as many activities as they choose, but they must do at least 3 to get tic-tac-toe by the end of the week.
Hint! This is perfect for the parents and children who actually “like” homework because they can do all nine.



Homework Folders
You will need a pocket folder, crayons, and markers to make a homework folder. First, let children decorate the outside of their folders. Trace around their “left” hand on the left pocket. At the end of each day children put completed work in that pocket and it is “left” at home. Trace around their “right” hand on the right pocket. Use a homework sheet similar to the one below. Fill out assignments for the whole week and place it in the “right” hand side of the child’s folder on Monday. On Friday save homework sheets in children’s folders. Review with parents at conferences.

Weekly Homework Sheet

Monday ________________ Tuesday ______________

_______________________ ______________________

_______________________ ______________________

Parent Signature/Comments Parent Signature/Comments

_______________________ ______________________

Wednesday_____________ Thursday_______________

_______________________ ______________________

_______________________ ______________________

Parent Signature/Comments Parent Signature/Comments

_______________________ ______________________


Clipboard Homework
Each child will need a clipboard that she can decorate with her name, stickers, etc. Each night clip the homework assignment to children’s clipboards. (Think outside the box with interactive activities, rather than worksheets!) Make sure parents know that their job is to look at the clipboard each night, help their child with the assignment, and send it back to school the next day.




Monthly Calendar
Send a calendar home at the beginning of each month and ask parents to complete at least ten activities and return by the end of the month.
Note! You can download these free on my website drjean.org.

Friday, September 11, 2026

READ AT HOME

Here's an idea for active learning that will involve families and encourage children to read, read, read. You can buy these or just start simple by creating two book bags. You could rotate these through your class for a month so each child would have two turns with different books and animals. Children will anticipate "their turn" and taking the bag home.

BOOK BAGS
Directions: Place a book and coordinating toy in each bag. Add blank paper, crayons, and a pencil. Rotate allowing children to take home “book buddy” bags. Remind them to do each of the activities below before returning the book bag to school.

1. Read the book to yourself.

2. Read the book to your book buddy (stuffed animal).

3. Read the book in the mirror.

4. Read the book to someone in your family.

5. Read the book one more time to your pet, a toy, or something else.

6. Draw a picture of your favorite part of the story.

When children return the book bag to school, invite them to sit in the “teacher’s chair” or "reader's chair" and read a few pages to their classmates.


TAKE HOME TEDDY
Put a stuffed bear (or other animal), spiral notebook, and pencil in a backpack. Choose a different child to take home the backpack each evening. The child writes or dictates a story to their parents about the bear.
*Just for fun add a toothbrush, pajamas, and other items for the bear.


PARENT LETTER
Here is a letter for parents that you can adapt to reinforce the important role that they play in helping their children learn to read.

Dear Parents,

You’ve heard it before, and I’ll say it again. You are your child’s first and most important teacher! The best way to help your child learn to read is to read, read, read!

Model reading in front of your child. Read directions on recipes, the newspaper, labels on clothing, and street signs. Show your child the importance of reading, and also the pleasure we can get from reading.

Set aside a special time each day to read with your child. It might be right before bed, or you could wake your child up each morning with a story.

Point your finger under the words as you read them.

Talk about the title of the book, the author, illustrator, etc. What is the setting? Who are the characters? Could this really happen or is it just pretend? 

Take your child to the library. Help your child get her own library card and take responsibility for books.

Create a special basket or shelf in your home where you keep books and magazines for your child to read. You might also want to keep a backpack filled with books in your car.

Happy reading!


Thursday, September 10, 2026

SHOW ME YOUR DRIVER'S LICENSE

THIS MIGHT NOT BE IN YOUR CURRICULUM, BUT IT'S 

IMPORTANT THAT CHILDREN KNOW SOME BASIC INFORMATION.  

PARENTS ALSO NEED TO KNOW THAT IN SPITE OF TECHNOLOGY, 

 THEIR CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW HIS/HER FULL NAME, 

BIRTHDAY, ADDRESS, AND PHONE NUMBER.

Driver's License
Having children make a driver's license might just be the perfect incentive to encourage them to learn their full name, birthday, and address. Use a small photo of each child and attach it to card stock with information similar to the one pictured. Older children can write in the information and younger children can dictate it to an adult.

Hint! It might be helpful to have a hand mirror so children can identify their eye color.

Here are some tips to remind parents how to help their child learn this information at home.

Full Name
Help children learn their full name “The Wheels on the Bus.”
My full name is (first) (middle) (last),
____, ____, ____,
____, ____, ____,
My full name is (first) (middle) (last),
That’s my full name.

Birthday
Birthdays can be sung to “Happy Birthday to You.”
September 24th,

September 24th,
My special birthday
Is September 24th.

Phone Number

Phone numbers can be learned by singing them to “Michael Row Your Boat Ashore.”
213-297-4308
213-297-4308

Address
Addresses can be sung to “Do You Know the Muffin Man?”
874 Pine Oak Circle,
874 Pine Oak Circle,
874 Pine Oak Circle,
Cincinnati, Ohio

Zip Code
Learn zip codes by singing them to the tune of “BINGO.”
There is a zip code where I live
And I will sing it to you.
54892,
54892,
54892
Now I know my zip code.

These are good rhymes to transition children, as well as to reinforce birthdays, phone numbers, and addresses.

Apples, pears, peaches, plums,
Tell me when your birthday comes.

Candy, candy, ice cream cone.
Tell me the number of your telephone.

Rabbit, dog, cat, mouse,
Tell me the number on your house.

Hint! Have a “cheat sheet” with the information so you can prompt the children that don’t know.

Wednesday, September 9, 2026

ARE YOU LISTENING?

When most teachers are asked what they look for in good students, they will respond, “I want students who can listen and follow directions.” As children spend more time in front of a screen, it’s important to slow down at the beginning of the school year to develop positive listening skills.

Turn it off! 
Turn off the big screen and get down at the children’s eye level and look at them.


Engage them! 
Get their attention with a finger play or a cheer.
*Teacher: Hocus pocus. (Pretend to wave a magic wand.)
Children: Everybody focus. (Children make imaginary goggles and put them around their eyes.)

Wait. 
Sit quietly and smile and wait.
*Close your eyes and pretend to wave a magic wand. Say, “Abracadabra. I will open my eyes when all my friends are sitting quietly.”

Lower your voice. 
By simply talking slowly with a quiet voice you will remind the children that it’s time to listen.
*Lip sinc a song or finger play like “Itsy Bitsy Spider.” Anything different or original will give children “pause.”

Busy Hands 
Give them something to do with their hands. Demonstrate how to cross your fingers and put your “listening hands” in your lap.


Pretzels and Applesauce 
If children are sitting on their bottoms they will be less likely to squirm around. Remind them that their legs should look like pretzels and they should make a bowl of applesauce with their hands.

Hint! I explain that the doctor said it’s important to sit with their legs like pretzels. If the “doctor says” they are more likely to respond. (This is true because orthopedists warn sitting on the knees can be harmful.)

Body Check. 
Remind children to listen with their eyes, ears, and bodies.
*Teacher: Are your eyes looking at me?
Children: Check!
Teacher: Are your ears ready to listen?
Children: Check!
Teacher: Are your bodies sitting quietly?
Children: Check!
Teacher: Are you ready to learn?
Children: Check!

Breathe 
Tell children to slowly breath in and out their noses. It’s surprising how this will calm them – and they won’t be able to talk!

Signs 
Run off a copy of a giant ear and tape it to a stick. When you hold up the ear children know they need to listen with big ears!


Repeat 
Practice giving directions ONE time. Invite another student to repeat what you have said.

Close Your Eyes 
Have children close their eyes as you give directions. Who can open their eyes and repeat what you said?

*Occasionally, have children close their eyes when you read a story. Can they make pictures in their brain?
*Invite children to sing songs or say nursery rhymes with their eyes closed.

Tuesday, September 8, 2026

WORLD GRATITUDE DAY


Gratitude is an emotion of expressing appreciation for what you have, rather than what you don’t have. Psychology Today reports that gratitude can be cultivated and it can increase levels of happiness when you do. Energy, optimism, and empathy are by-products of gratitude. World Gratitude Day is September 21st, so integrate these activities into your lesson plans this week.

P.S. Have I told you lately that I'M GRATEFUL FOR YOU!!! Thanks for reading my blog!

Model Gratitude
Make it a habit to include things you appreciate into daily conversations.


Brainstorm
What does it mean to be thankful and grateful? Write children’s responses on the board. What are some synonyms for thankful?



Lists
Children love to make lists, so let them make a list (draw pictures or write) of all the things they are grateful for.

ABC
Can they think of something for each letter of the alphabet that they are grateful for?



Gratitude Journal
Let children make a special "gratitude journal." Encourage them to write what they are grateful for each day for a week.



Gratitude Box

Cut a hole in the top of a shoebox and decorate. Place on a shelf along with paper and pencils. Children can write things they are grateful for and place them in the box. Read the notes at the end of the day before children go home.

Grateful Greeting
Start the day by going around the room and asking each child to say something they are grateful for.

End with Something GOOD
End the day by having children say something good that happened at school that day.

Hot Potato Pass
Children sit or stand in a circle and begin passing the hot potato (ball or other small object) around. When the music stops or when the teacher blows a whistle the child holding the potato must say one thing they are grateful for.