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Friday, May 1, 2026

EMPATHY UP, ANXIETY DOWN

I know you're going to be encouraged by this meaningful 
May Day article from my friend Barbara Gruener.  

Do you know the tradition behind May Day? Growing up, I was told that young people would pick a basket of wildflowers on May 1st each year, place them on the doorstep of an elderly neighbor, ring the bell and run. A fragrant version of Ding, Dong, Ditch, if you will, meant to bring springtime cheer to someone’s heart after a long winter’s chill. My sister and I even did this a time or two, and guess what? It warmed our hearts as much as it must have melted theirs.

Research by the Society of America Florists shows myriad mental-health benefits from having flowers in your house, including an elevated mood and a reduced stress level, due to your body’s release of its feel-good chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin. Flowers have also been known to reduce anxiety and depression.

So why not take your learners outside to hunt for flowers. Breathe in the beauty and exhale the worries as you look for a bouquet of all of the hues of the rainbow. Use all five senses as you let the flowers do what flowers do best, give us that booster shot of energy and joy. Lady Bird Johnson said it best when she reminded us that “where flowers bloom, so does hope.” Once back inside, invite your class family to draw what they experienced.

May is also Mental Health Awareness month, so I put together this collection of stress busters that we practiced in my 25 years as a school counselor.




From the research of Dr. Michele Borba, we know that when empathy increases, anxiety can decrease, creating a supersized win-win that prompted the theme of empathy in all of our Mom’s Choice Gold Award books.



In What’s Under Your Cape?, kindly endorsed by Dr. Jean herself, you’ll find an entire chapter (E is for Empathy) devoted to that glorious skill of putting yourself in another’s shoes. Since we are hardwired for empathy, it’s never too early to put that word into our students’ vocabularies and help them make it actionable by understanding, embracing, and helping in another’s time of need. Head. Heart. Hands. Empathy up, anxiety down.

We also know from Dr. Borba’s research that reading fiction can stretch empathy muscles, so empathy is prevalent in these three picture books. As you read them aloud, remember to pause throughout and ask, “How would you feel if you were that character?” or “What do you imagine that you would you need in that situation?” or “How could you help that person?”

Open up Mr. Quigley’s Keys to find a hero handyman jingling through the hallways of his school looking for ways to serve. His adoring students love it when they hear the cacophony of keys, the very same keys that he can’t even hear because he lost his hearing in the Korean War. Sometimes empathy is quiet like that. Just as he steps into their stories, not to fix it for them, just to feel it with them, the students plan a special surprise that will leave you feeling all the feels.


Find ASL embedded into this treasure as well as the ASL alphabet and numbers in the enrichment back pages to treat your class family to an additional way to practice empathy.

Have fun with this little ditty using hand-jive motions or dancing the bunny hop:


Meet Birdie & Mipps, an older sister who helps her little brother process a conflict with his friend Patty. He didn’t mean to call her a nickname without her permission, but can their friendship survive what he did? Join these sweet siblings on a walk ‘n talk through their farming community to learn all about treating others the way they want to be treated, starting with leadership lesson number one: Names are important!

Find out if they have a nickname and if so, are they willing to share it? Where did the name come from and who has permission to call them that?

The backmatter in this book includes enrichment activities to help elevate empathy, mobilize compassion, and practice kindness in your character building.

As Knit Back Together unravels, serendipity steps in to help Levi, whose Grams recently passed away, move through his grief even as he navigates moving to a new school. It’s as he’s rolling yarn into balls to relax that he meets Frances, a potential new friend who offers to do something that Grams ran out of time to do: Teach Levi to knit. Will Frances be able to cut through his fog of uncomfortable feelings and help knit Levi’s heart back together? And will Levi, in turn, find another friend who needs the healing benefits of knitting, too?

Look for some tips for navigating grief, a coloring page, even Grams’ recipe for Monster Cookies in the resource pages of this niche newcomer.

For more information, please visit me at barbaragruenerauthor.com for an author visit or to let me know how I can encourage and support your empathy journeys.

Happy cheers as you slide into summer. Barbara

FAMILY FUN CALENDAR

We all know how critical it is to engage parents in their child’s education. All parents want the best for their children, but many of them don’t have the resources or know what to do – other than to hand the child their phone!!! So here are some great old-fashion, hands-on, ideas to encourage parents to spend time with their children this summer.

Family Fun Calendar
Here’s a summer calendar that you can run off for your students. Glue it to a heavy piece of cardboard and attach a string so it can be hung up in their home. Read over the activities to motivate your students, and then let them decorate their calendars with markers or crayons.



Bucket of “Fun”
You can buy sand buckets or just use a plastic cup like I did. Punch holes and add a pipe cleaner handle. Let children decorate their “buckets of fun” with markers, stickers, etc.



Make a list of activities that children can do with their families over the summer to reinforce skills you’ve worked on during the school year. Cut into strips and place in the buckets. Send the bucket home with a note encouraging the parents to let their child select a strip each day and do the activity.

Some examples might include:
Read a story with your parents. Tell what happened at the beginning, middle, and end of the story. What do you think will happen next?
Play a rhyming game. How many words can you think of that rhyme with "can"? "Pot"?
"Book"? "Coat"? "Sheep"? "Like"?
Trace around your hand and your foot. What can you make out of them?
Count as high as you can. Can you count by 2's, 5's, and 1O's?
Ask your parents to teach you a song they learned when they were your age.
Look in your kitchen pantry. How many labels can you read?
How many ways can you move? Can you hop, skip, jump, gallop, tiptoe, walk
backwards?
Can you draw a circle, oval, square, rectangle, and triangle? What other shapes can
you draw?
Write a special letter to someone in your house.
Look at some of your baby pictures. How have you changed?
Find something that begins with these letters: B, H, S, M, L,
Draw a picture of your neighborhood.
Make a list of 5 things that are non-living. Make a list of 5 things that are living.
Do you have a library card? Visit your library and check out some books.
Do a job around the house.
Write your name on a piece of paper - first, middle, and last. What are your initials?


End of Year Letter
Give parents with a positive lasting impression by sending a letter similar to the one below. It might be thoughtful to send a picture of their child along with the note.

Dear ______,

Lucky me to get to spend this special year with your child! (Child’s name) has worked hard and has grown in many ways. One of my favorite memories is (something unique about the child).

I appreciate all the support and encouragement you have given (child’s name) at home. Behind every great student is a great family!

Saying good-bye is bittersweet. “Bitter” because I will miss (child’s name), but sweet because I am so proud to have been a part of his/her life! Please keep in touch because I know the future holds many wonderful things for your child and your family!

Remember to read and laugh every day this summer!

Fondly,

Thursday, April 30, 2026

MOTHER'S DAY

Mother's Day is just around the corner on May 10th. I'm sure you'll find an idea just right for your special moms on my blog today.

A Box for Mommy (Tune: "Polly Wolly Doodle")
I wish I had a little box (Pretend to hold a box in your hands.)
To put my mommy in. (Pretend to put something in the box.)
I’d take her out and go (Take something out of the box
(kiss, kiss, kiss) and kiss in the air.)
And put her back again.

If my mommy were in my box
Were in my box, then she would always know.
School or play, night or day,
How I love her so! (Cross arms over chest.)

I made this box for mother’s day, (Pretend to hold a box.)
It’s full of love for you.
When we’re apart, hold it to your heart, (Put hands over heart.)
And know I’m thinking of you.


Box of Love Necklace
You can collect small boxes that jewelry come in or use matchboxes for this project. Spray paint the boxes and then let the children decorate them with stickers, glitter pens, etc. Glue a small picture of the child inside the box. Punch a hole and attach a ribbon so it can be worn around the neck. Teach children the song and let them present their necklaces at a Mother’s Day tea, or send the boxes home with the words to the song.


My Mom Can
Let each child make a predictable book about all the things their mom can do.



Hats off for Moms
These are adorable hats from paper plates that children can make for their mothers. Cut the inner section out of the plate. Decorate the outer rim with markers. Cut 4” squares out of tissue paper and wad up and glue on the rim to look like flowers. Punch a hole in each side and tie on a 16” piece of string or ribbon. Place the hat on your head and tie under the chin.



LOVE YOU Flower
Trace around children's hands on construction paper and cut out. Glue to a stem and fold down the middle and ring finger to make sign language for "I love you!"




A Gift from the Heart
Make a flip book and write the following on the flips:
Some gifts are round.
Some gifts are tall.
Some gifts are large.
Some gifts are small.


Open and write:
But a gift from the heart is the best gift of all!

(Glue the child's photo or let them draw a picture of themselves.)
*Hint! Write "flip book" in my search engine to see how to make this book.


Handprints
Have children dip their hands in mud (or use paint) and press them on a sheet of paper. Let them decorate and then add this poem:
Here are my handprints made for you
this happy Mother's Day.
These are ones you can always keep
and not have to wash away!

Wednesday, April 29, 2026

CALL BACKS

Call backs are similar to the game “Marco Polo.” The teacher says one thing and the children respond. Call backs work like a charm to focus children’s attention.  Use these to end your school year and then teach them to your new group of students.


Teacher says: Criss cross. 
Children respond: Be your own boss. (Cross arms and sit up straight.) 

Teacher says: All set? (Snap fingers twice.) 
Children respond: You bet! (Snap fingers twice.) 
*If they are not ready they respond “not yet.” Keep saying “All set?” until the entire class is responding “You bet!” 

Teacher says: Hands on top. 
Children respond: Everybody stop! (Put hands on head and freeze.) 

Teacher says: Macaroni and cheese. 
Children respond: Freeze please! (Freeze and look at the teacher.) 
                                      
Teacher says: Ready? 
Children respond: Spaghetti! (Stand up straight.) 

Teacher says: Locket. (Pretend to lock lips.) 
Children respond: Pocket. (Pretend to put the key in their pocket.) 

Teacher says: Hips (Put one hand on your hip.) 
Children respond: And lips. (Put index finger on lips.) 

Teacher says: Standing straight? 
Children respond: Check! 
Teacher says: Hands to self?
Children respond: Check! 
Teacher says: Mouth closed? 
Children respond: Check! 
Teacher says: Ready for the hall? 
Children respond: Check! 

It’s also fun to play the “Marco Polo” game as you wait for children to get ready to go home, clean the room, and so forth. 
              
Teacher: Marco
Children: Polo


Teacher: Okeedookee 
Children: Artichokee 

Teacher: Peanut butter 
Children: Jelly 
                    
Teacher:  Da da da da da...
Children:  I'm loving it!  (MacDonald's advertisement)
*Let the children make up their own call backs.


Tuesday, April 28, 2026

A FEW MORE TRICKS FOR THE END OF THE YEAR

One of the first things I learned when I did brain research was that the "brain likes novelty." These are all unique tricks that you can try to grab children's attention. I bet you'll find at least one or two that will work for you.


Music Box
Play a music box to indicate to the children it’s time to get quiet.
*One teacher said she wound up the music box at the end of the day and challenged the children to get quiet quickly so there would still be music at the end of the day.


Bubbles
Blow bubbles and see if the children can be sitting quietly before all the bubbles pop.


Happy Chappy
You will need some lip balm with a fragrance. Gently rub children’s right hand with a “happy chappy” when they are following directions.


If You Don’t Know What to Do (Tune: “If You’re Happy and You Know It”)
If you don’t know what to do look at (child doing the correct thing).
If you don’t know what to do look at ---
She will show you what you ought to do
So you can do it, too.
If you don't know what to do look at ---


Flashlight Spotlight
Take a flashlight and shine it on a child who is modeling the behavior you are looking for. “Spotlight on (child’s name). He’s got his math book and he’s ready to learn.”


Breath through Your Nose
Challenge the children to practice breathing through their noses. Guess what? You can’t talk of your lips are sealed and you are breathing through your nose! (The teacher who shared this said she could run to the office and back and her kids wouldn’t make a peep!)

Peace and Quiet
Make the “peace” sign with one hand as you put the index finger from the other hand on your mouth.

Magic Clap
The teacher begins a clapping pattern which the students try to repeat.

ZYX
Can children sing the alphabet backwards and be sitting quietly by the time you get to A?



Monday, April 27, 2026

ON THE WAY TO THE BARN

Do you know what it means when someone says, “We’re on the way to the barn?” That means you’re almost there…almost home…almost finished with the school year. This is also the time of the year when kids get spring fever and a little restless.

Hint! You will notice that I use hand movements in all of these. I've learned that if I can get children to do something with their hands I have a better chance of engaging them.

Tootsie Roll

Tootsie roll, (Roll hands around each other.)
Lollipop. (Pretend to lick a lollipop.)
We’ve been talking, (Open and shut fingers.)
Now let’s stop! (Make sign language sign for “stop.”)

Hocus Pocus
Teacher says:
“Hocus Pocus!” (Stick out index finger and circle around like a wand.)
Children respond:
“Everybody focus!” (Make circles around eyes like spectacles.)


Student Heroes
5-4-3-2-1-zero (Hold up hand and put down one finger at a time.)
I’m looking for my (Make circles with index fingers and thumbs and place
student heroes. around eyes like glasses.)

Give Me a Clap (Tune: “Addams Family”)
Give me a clap. (Clap twice.) Give me a clap. (Clap twice.)
Give me a clap, give me a clap,
Give me a clap. (Clap twice.)
Give me a snap. (Snap twice.) Give me a snap. (Snap twice.)
Now fold your hands and put them down
Into your lap. (Model putting your hands in your lap.)

Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Lap (Tune: "Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes")
Head, shoulders, knees, and lap, (Point to appropriate body part.)
Knees and lap.
Head, shoulders, knees, and lap, (Point to appropriate body part.)
Knees and lap.
Legs are criss-cross applesauce (Cross legs and fold hands.)
And our hands are in our lap, lap, lap

*Cut the label from a can of applesauce and glue it to a stick. Hold it up when you want your students to sit criss-cross applesauce.

Sitting Chant
1, 2, 3, 4 - glue your bottoms to the floor.
5, 6, 7, 8 - hands to yourself and sit up straight.

Hint! Choose one of these attention grabbers and use it consistently for several weeks. That way when the children hear it they will automatically “tune” in.

P.S. Don't forget about those "oldies but goodies" finger plays. After all these years I can still engage a group of children with "Miss Molly," "King Kong," and "Put the Baby to Bed."

Sunday, April 26, 2026

ABC COUNTDOWN

Years ago Brad McKinney (Kindergarten Teacher at Severn Elementary) emailed this idea to me. I was searching through old blogs and I found it!! With all the craziness this past year, the ABC COUNTDOWN might end your year on a positive note. It's something that you could easily adapt to your calendar or teaching situation.

Note! As someone once told me, "It doesn't matter what you serve your guests for dinner. Just make sure the dessert is good because that's what they'll remember." Think of this last month of school as "dessert"! Make it GOOD and HAPPY!


Parents and Guardians,

Believe it or not, the school year is quickly coming to an end. During the last 26 days of school, our class will be participating in an ABC Countdown. Each school day will have a different activity related to the letter for that day. Your child may need to wear or bring something special on some days – those days are underlined. This sheet will help you and your child remember what day of the countdown we are on.



A
Monday
Animal Day
Bring your favorite stuffed animal to school

B
Tuesday
Bubble Day
We will be making and blowing bubbles

C
Wednesday
Card Game Day
Bring your favorite card game to play at school

D
Thursday
Dinosaur Day
We will be dinosaur detectives

E
Friday
Everybody dress in your favorite team shirt

F
Wednesday
Fruit Day
Bring your favorite fruit for snack today

G
Thursday
Going on a picnic
Bring a packed lunch!

H
Friday
Hat Day
Wear your favorite hat to school

I
Monday
Imagine Day
Imagine you had a magic wand - what would you wish for?

J
Tuesday
Joke Day
Write down your favorite joke to share with class

K
Wednesday
Kick Off Your Shoes Day
You will be able to take your shoes off in class all day

L
Thursday
Leisure Day
We will relax outside with a book (weather permitting)

M
Friday
Memory Day
We will be writing about our favorite memories from kindergarten this year

N
Monday
Nature Day
Make binoculars and go on a nature walk

O
Tuesday
Orange Day
Wear the color orange and bring an orange for snack

P
Wednesday
Picnic Day
Bring a packed lunch from home

Q
Thursday, June 12
Quiz Your Teacher Day
Bring your hardest question to stump your teacher.

R
Friday
Roadrunner Field Day
Field day games and activities outside with entire grade level

S
Monday
Sidewalk Art Day
We will be decorating a section of the sidewalk

T
Tuesday
Talent Show Day
Share your talent with the class

U
Wednesday
Used Book Day
Bring a used book you would like to donate to the class or library

V
Thursday
Veggie Day
Bring your favorite vegetable for snack

W
Friday
Wishy Washy Day
Be prepared to get wet!

X
Monday
X-change Autographs Day
Make an autograph book and collect as many autographs as you can

Y
Tuesday
Year End Clearance
Bring a bag to gather all your items from the year

Z
Wednesday, June 25
Zoom Out of School Day
Last day of kindergarten